Healing from Love Lost post (still in)-Pandemic
Shout out to 2020 for being the worst year ever. It’s like everything was at risk: our health, peace of mind, relationships, careers, and everything we thought we knew about the world. The level of uncertainty we experienced as a nation and around the world was crazy. Yet, in Fall 2021, we seem to be having more conversations about our mental health, tolerance, and relationships going into another holiday season.
This time last year, we didn’t have a vaccine. So the excuse to skip the family functions is no longer available? Discussing your breakup after avoiding it for so long can be uncomfortable, and I can’t be the only one who thinks breakups hit different during a pandemic? The added isolation on top of the world’s stresses and emotional/opinionated turmoil feels more than overwhelming.
Binge-watching Netflix and neglecting your feelings are no longer applicable in this political climate. The human experience needs a spiritual influence more than ever to keep hope alive. (CHECK OUT Why Spiritual Wellness should be the Ultimate Self-Care Flexx). In the meantime, look over The fastest way to heal after a breakup:
- Feel the emotion let it run its course: Don’t hold back your tears.
My ex used to scream at me to stop crying after we got into an argument that I wasn’t emotionally prepared for. Holding back my tears made me resent him more for not feeling safe to be my whole self. It wasn’t a safe space to be sad; looking back on it, I am glad it ended because I couldn’t see myself marrying someone who harshly criticized me at my most vulnerable state.
2. Meditate on being present instead of thinking of the past: our mindset can make or break you.
Confidence in yourself can expedite the healing process. To this day, I look in the mirror and talk to myself when I’m feeling confused, sad, uncertain, or ugly. Sometimes all the above. The trick is to be your own best friend. What do you tell your best friend when they are in this state. How do you encourage, inspire, and motivate them? The exact words worthy for friends and family, look in the mirror and tell them to yourself.
3. Call it GOD, the universe, or purpose, either way, it’s working for you and not against you.
Your spirituality, gift, and purpose all align with why you are here on this earth. When things don’t work out, it’s supposed to bring you closer to that purpose rather than further away. Doing it on your own or relying on your human flesh is the act of the ego. We are designed to move with intuition, ask for guidance, and be intentional. Naturally, we want our faith and hope to influence our motives.
Tapping into our GOD-given grace can amplify our experiences and correct our behaviors to heal with underserving glory.
If you can start to reflect on your relationship without being emotional and reacting hysterically, you are moving in the right direction:
Reflect on remembering how you felt at your happiness during that time and what you can do to get back to that feeling in a healthy way without your ex.
